Taking care of twins, their meals and the housework without a helper (maid) while being a full time working mum (FTWM).
Many twin mums are concerned about this. I was too! Well it is possible. It is important to put the kids on a schedule and routine because they need to know what’s coming next..
The day care center takes care of their breakfast and lunch. I try to cook 2-3 dinners per week. On days that I don’t cook, we pack food from outside (usually dry noodle, spaghetti, chicken rice and porridge). You may want to consider ting kat dinner delivery service too (we have tried Hong Choo and it isn’t bad). To top up on vegetables, I make smoothies which is quick to prepare (spinach, carrot, cucumber smoothies etc). Some must-haves for dinner are a piece of fruit or yoghurt.
Our evening routine goes like this: We fetch the girls between 5 pm – 6 pm. After school we usually spend about 15 minutes outside at the playground. By 6.15 pm we are back at home for dinner.
We contain them in their high chairs during dinner time. Dinner time used to be sort of a nightmare (wouldn’t want to stay in their high chairs, had to chase after them to feed them) but in most cases it gets better as they grow older. Now they enjoy being in their high chairs (unless they are very tired) and eating dinner by themselves. There’s just something about holding your own spoon and folk that makes it all so exciting.
Sometimes I eat my dinner while they eat theirs. Other times I quickly tidy up the house. It is best not to switch on the TV while eating so that they can focus on their food and give you their attention. Once they are done eating (usually within 15 minutes), they will tell me that they are done by handing me their plates or bowls. If they start throwing food on the floor, I take away their bowls. I don’t mind them playing with their food and feeling their food texture but throwing food on the floor is a big no no.
After dinner, I spend 10-15 minutes cleaning up the high chair mess and washing the dishes while I let them watch some dvds (Barney, Brainy Brains, Nursery Rhymes etc) and play by themselves. After I am done with the cleaning up, we spend some time together before shower time. By 7 pm we are in their bedroom, having the last milk feed and spending more time together before bedtime.
The house will definitely not be perfectly clean! I don’t mind seeing toys on the floor but as long as I have a clean floor (clean floor to me = no sight of food bits and hair) and as long as our dining table is not cluttered, I am happy! I vacuum every day but I keep the mopping to once a week. As for the girls’ laundry, it’s done at least twice a week — usually on Wednesdays and Saturdays. Hanging clothes is done after the girls go to sleep. Thankfully by around 8pm plus they are already sleeping. After they sleep, my hands are free and if I am not being lazy, I will spend a couple of minutes tidying up the house.
I am looking forward to the day when they are big enough to help me (for real) with the housework. For now, simple things are taught — where the dirty clothes go to, how to fold the clothes, where to keep the clean clothes, how to hand wash clothes, keeping the toys after playing etc.
Well, of course there are days when everything just goes haywire! It’s ok! We all have our bad days and we are not perfect.
Remember: We should never judge another parent.